This month, I’m going to write about something completely random:
Or, more specifically, enjoyment of something, assuming that it’s well-done and prepared properly.
As a person who’s always willing to go out and try something new, I want to say this: I don’t think it’s fair to say that you don’t enjoy something until you’ve given it a good, honest try. Things around you usually have a lot more depth than they may seem. Also, if those things are still around, then they must be around for a reason. It is after the try–and only after the try–that you can say that it’s not your “cup of tea.” I really don’t think you can pass judgement before that. This is especially true if you’re experiencing something completely new for the first time. Because if you have no basis for comparison, then how will you know for sure?
I’m also in the boat where if something isn’t your “cup of tea,” then you need reasons why. I don’t like when people say they don’t like something and say “it’s just not my cup of tea” and can’t provide any other reasons. It feels like a cop-out answer and that you’re not even going to try to enjoy the activity past its surface.
How do you define a “try?” Well, it depends on what it is. For the most part, you have to try hard enough to be able to appreciate some facet of it before you can point out exactly what it is that you don’t enjoy. That’s just how long it takes. But if you don’t like something and it seems to have no depth, then it takes at least a few tries. The classic example here is pho.
I’ll give a few personal examples.
Some things I didn’t think I’d like but enjoy now:
- Ballroom dancing. I didn’t think I would enjoy it, even after the first few times I went. But after becoming more interested and investing some time into learning it a little more, I realized that I quite enjoy it, and it’s something that I’d be willing to spend money to learn.
- Meeting new people. I used to despise leaving the house and talking to people face-to-face at parties. I used to keep my doors shut until it was time to go, and it was because I wasn’t willing to put in the effort to make it work. Now, while I still struggle a little bit with this, I have a much easier time talking to new people because I simply find it enjoyable.
Some things I’ve tried and disliked:
- League of Legends is not my cup of tea. I like fast-paced games, and this game is rather fast-paced, but I don’t like the way they sped up the game by making parts of it easier.
- Bowling. This activity pretty much defeats the purpose of a social gathering. You can’t keep up a conversation for more than two minutes unless you’re not playing.
- Most movies. I prefer movies that are heavy in plot and low in fighting, unless it’s an Asian martial arts movie. If a movie has a weak plot or a lot of plot holes, then I’m not going to enjoy it.
- Jeans. I don’t know how jeans became the most common style of pants. They’re so uncomfortable. They hug my legs and restrict my movement.
Some things I’ve afraid to try for fear of ending up liking it:
I’m not going to lie to you and say that everything I’ve given an honest try at all the things I dislike. There’s plenty of things I haven’t tried and don’t want to: not with the mentality of “I’ll probably dislike it anyway,” but “I don’t want to end up enjoying this.” For whatever reason.
- Pop music. Because I’m a pretentious fan of classical music and jazz.
- Spectator sports. Because I’m a pretentious fan of video games.
- TV shows that people recommend me. Because I’m pretentious.
Anyway, if you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading. And think about some things in your own life that you enjoy (or not) and let me know why. I’m genuinely curious about why people like certain things.
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